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When one is consciously seeking positive change it is with a deliberate effort to gain a certain desired state, or outcome, and seeking this “positive change” is a necessary key to finding a value-based solution(s) to attain success to get to that result.
What is a value-based solution? A value-based solution solves a problem from the level of truth and integrity, whereby the effect is real and lasting, and ultimately transformative. A value-based solution is a topic that truly deserves a separate discourse, which I will attempt at another time. For the sake of this outline, and brevity, value-based refers to what is effective and meaningful in a positive way and does not create illicit and negative impact to oneself and to others in the long-term.
The future one envisions for one’s self and the future that the world enlists one in is diametrically opposed for many. A great deal of life is spent trying to move beyond the invisible walls of one’s own limitations. A lot of people live in the world and never consider themselves independent of their worldly desires and cannot divide their individual meaning from the social “reality”. This is not a criticism.
Intention alone cannot produce instant results, but personal change starts with intention and when that intention is clearly understood, it becomes easy to work towards a positive outcome. One’s struggle towards a desired outcome or goal makes success even more meaningful, but struggle itself does not validate success. So how can we get to our best state of anything in life? What is the quality that is necessary to achieve almost anything? I leave you with these questions to ponder. It is not up to me provide answers. I can, however, provide some guidelines.
Often times a happy state drastically alters when things go wrong. Let me ask another question here; is a happy state in life the best state in life? Do you know your own dependencies on your happiness? Does your happy state support your best state, or vice versa? Are these two states mutually exclusive? In my world happiness should have no worldly dependencies. So are we really speaking about happiness?
What I am pointing to is a perfectly successful person may not be happy at all. So no, success and happiness is not always coupled though it may make for a life of comfort and ease. A positive place in life is associated with happiness, for sure. What is your positive (desired) outcome?
The greatest of life tests occur when many things become seemingly perfect. This reasoning may not make any sense but do think about this carefully. I hear some people say that things always go wrong for them when they are trying so hard, and when things are so good it seems too good to be true. When things go awry it should be an opportunity to learn and to uplift oneself. In other words, fine tune oneself to a higher outcome. Living your best life is not equivalent to material gains, though it is a mark of a positive and maybe a good situation.
When things go wrong, it is usually an indicator to objectively take a mental inventory to either recalibrate, or just do nothing and allow the course of life to unfold. A lot of people easily self-sabotage and simply try to right everything and react. When you undertake any mental inventory do not allow others to put you to task to undermine your integrity: Meaning, looking at yourself truthfully and objectively. In other words learn to learn from your own errors. This is your process and your life’s lessons are not another’s; and, if you are smart you can still learn from others and not have to reap any karma. If you are a sharing person and you like to share your experiences, remember it does not matter if someone takes your advice or learns anything from you, for the mechanisms of change is always in motion.
To move forward we need to rewind to realign with our objectives and ideals. Take some time and take a mental inventory on where you are, who you are and what you are. A bit of reflection helps us to move in time with change and into change.